If you have just divorced, or a parent who has not had much presence in your child’s life has recently secured visitation rights, your child may take time to get used to visitation. They may have a difficult time, especially when young. And one of the issues they may face is separation anxiety. Your child crying when you drop them to the other parent or when you pick them up can be stressful. But you can help them.
Here are some ways you can help your child at this time:
1. They should not skip visitation
This may sound strict, but your child should not skip visitation even when they are anxious. Although challenging, you should not give in to their fears. Instead, talk to your child about the benefits of visiting the other parent. You can even inform them the other parent has activities planned to get them excited.
2. Tell them how you will spend time when they are away
Your child may be concerned about leaving you. That’s why it’s crucial to talk to them about their fears. If they tell you they are uncomfortable leaving you alone, tell them how you plan to spend your time. When your child knows you will be fine and having fun, they may be more willing to go for visits.
3. Have a consistent schedule
Changing routines now and then can be confusing and can contribute significantly to your child’s separation anxiety. Your child may cope more easily with the new life when they know when to go to the other parent, how/when you will call them, when they will go to bed and so on. Therefore, it’s vital to maintain the same routine in both houses.
While you may want your child to be excited about being with both of you, it may take time. You should get legal help to create a parenting plan that allows a smooth transition for your child.