For those with children who are thinking about divorce, the idea of co-parenting can be daunting. This is, especially true if one of the reasons for the divorce is disagreements over parenting. However, regardless of those disagreements, unless there are abuse allegations and sufficient proof, you will have to figure out a way to co-parent with your ex-spouse.
For those St. Charles Parish spouses who get along, nesting can be a good way to make co-parenting easier on the child, and in some ways, easier on the parents as well.
Child custody logistics can be easier
When you nest with your Jefferson Parish family, your child stays in the family home, and it is you and your ex-spouse who move. This means that neither of you has to figure out the logistics of keeping your child’s schedule, the parenting schedule and the custody arraignments together. Instead, when it is time for you to parent, you show up at the home and parent. The child’s life remains the same as pre-divorce.
What happens during the downtime?
Just like with New Orleans Parish couples who are not nesting, what you do when you are not parenting is entirely up to you. For some nesters, other than keeping the family home, the two, new separate lives look the same as if they had chosen not to nest.
However, for others who nest, they bring that sharing mindset to their nonparenting lives as well. For those ex-spouses, they choose to share their living expenses by sharing an apartment or separate living quarters on the family property. The key is communication, trust and amicability. If you and your ex-spouse do not have any one of these key traits, nesting will not work.
Choosing what works
For our New Orleans, Louisiana, readers thinking about nesting, talk to your divorce lawyer and your soon-to-be ex-spouse. For those who can do it, nesting is a great way to help your children through the divorce process without the normal life upheavals that are hallmarks of most divorces.